Negative Events Carry More Emotional Weight
The sad fact is that negative events in a person’s life carry far more emotional weight than the positive. And those negative events – even seemingly small ones – carry a much greater ability to damage a person, than larger positive events do to heal them.
Negative pivot points are almost always at the root of struggle. I can say with assurance that all of the patients I’ve treated who are in the midst of struggle have pivot points that are related to the six categories of struggle: anger, fear, addiction, shame, excessive desire for status or money, and toxic need for love and/or acceptance. And I can also say that I have struggled with many of these sources of pain myself. We all have. Hence, the Get A Grip books I have written on each of these subjects
Finding and confronting your pivot points can lead to a breakthrough to a higher power; that place where you no longer feel uncomfortable with yourself but don’t really know why. But how is it that you clearly define your pivot points? And what do you do with your pivot points – the good and the bad ones – when you discover what they are?
I have had patients who have largely left their struggles behind after a single session of guided meditation that allowed them to experience the pivot point again. Why is this? Because the mind is more powerful than reality.
A person who can successfully reframe a negative event from their childhood – understanding why it happened and how they can now change it from their adult perspective – can provide an understanding of events that take the power out of the pivot point.
Exploring pivot points from the perspective of age allows one to understand so much more than could be understood as a tender child. There is a CD, or downloadable audio file, on my website called the Wise Old Being Meditation which can help you with this.
The fact of the matter is, that when we experience a negative incident, the emotions behind the negative event are far stronger – betrayal, abandonment, fear, resentment, disappointment, grudges – than a positive event. There’s so much more energy behind a negative pivot point, that it becomes a powerful negative charge of emotion…that’s life. It takes more mental energy to beat a negative emotion than to bring a positive one into our heart. The rule here: love always wins.
For more tips on how to overcome negative pivot points read:
Stop The Struggle
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Here I thought…I just was not letting go of all my terrible memories of intense abuse with my step father. Thank you Derek for once again, tuning into the needs of survivors of abuse!
As I read ‘Stop the struggle book’ (am reading it again), and also getting help from my Teacher, Derek O’Neill, I was able to let go of the negative emotions that I’ve been struggling with and working on for a longest time. Since He has many other teachings and tools, I strive to remember to use them when needed. I am infinitely grateful to my Teacher for healings He renders unconditionally. I am so blessed. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!