Believe it or not, there are actually a lot of people who don’t know how to set goals. You have to learn how to set goals properly and then how to energize that goal with the proper intent in order to give it the best opportunity to manifest. The first mistake that people make when they set their intentions is they usually set them on the basis of making someone else happy. It is not possible to make another person happy unless they choose to be happy. You cannot change a single thought in their head, so stop wasting your energy.
Everything must come back to the self. So the question is: What aspect of myself would I like to change so that everything around me changes? Maybe you want to change the way you react to people and situations in your life. Goals like this are great because it’s easy to see how you’re doing. You’ve got a really good chance of achieving it. And if you can do it for 21 days, you will have broken the habit, but you can’t go trying to change everything at once. You have to be able to focus in on one thing. When you set a goal for yourself, you have to be able to give it one hundred percent and you can’t give one hundred percent to two things at the same time. So if you want to come off cigarettes, focus on that first. Say to yourself, “I am smoke free.” Can you feel the strength of that? Instead of, “I am smoke free so my husband or wife is happy and I am healthy and the house doesn’t smell.” No. Make it your mantra, “I am smoke free,” and pull all your focus and energy to it, day after day. Then you will begin to see and feel the change happening within you.
A good decision-making task to do regarding change is get a blank sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. Put the behavior or situation you want to change on the top, and on one side write the advantages of changing it, on the other the disadvantages. For example, you think you want to leave your job and the disadvantages outweigh the advantages…do not leave that job right away! Especially if you have had a falling out with the boss, or don’t get along with someone, don’t make a rash decision, instead sit with it and really weigh the advantages and disadvantages. Don’t go ahead all gung-ho and then start wondering, “How am I going to pay my rent?”
Sometimes our life goes into a spin when we create a change, and that is the last thing we want. What we want is to make sure that our decision is 100% our own, and that we are 100% willing to accept the consequences of it. Let the decision-making task bring up all your fears, resentments, disappointments, as well as your hopes, dreams, bliss and happiness. If you are 100% ready to change something in your life, make it your one goal. If you can stay focused for long enough for it to take hold, you will be amazed at what you can achieve. Most of all be honest with yourself, and remember to use common sense over spiritual sense.
Happy New Year!
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