Believe it or not there are actually people who empower themselves to be negative. They actually thrive on being negative and being a victim. Why do they do this? Because they actually don’t know any other way…or they think they don’t know any other way. And of course there’s always another way, there’s always another point of view. But you must have courage to shift a point of view and this is where most of the work stems from.
Imagine you’ve tagged a situation a negative one, and we’ll just say the situation is that your grown-up child is still a baby. They still want the attention as a baby would and they haven’t quite learned how to shift past that stage. To begin we have to start by wondering why are they still stuck in that stage? In other words, when you were growing up if you had a parent who, when you were a good boy or a good girl they gave you a bag of sweets, and when you were a bad girl or a bad boy they took away your bag of sweets…if you’re working on that program the chances are that you may have a weight issue. The weight issue is probably coming from the fact that now that I’m grown up I’m going to eat as many sweets as I like. In this way you think you are cancelling out the program from when you were younger, while the truth of the matter is, that it is this program that still has you overeating. If you now look at the relationships that are going on in your life right now with your partner, colleagues, and parents or with your siblings, you can see the programs that are running still within your being. Your unconscious is running far more of your life than your conscious is. And because it’s unconscious you aren’t aware that it’s going on. What you have to do is, you have to bring the unconscious to an awareness that will bring you to a space where you become empowered again.
Let’s start by looking at your everyday behaviors. Why do you still react to certain situations, events or how people speak about you? Are you still triggered by that? Are you still working on the reward and punishment program that was perhaps put into you by your very loving and caring parents? At some stage you have to make a conscious decision and say, “Okay, here I am, I’m sitting here, I’m going to be quiet for a moment and I’m going to see what is going on in my life, right here, right now, that could be changed for the better!” It’s over to you, this is your moment to have courage and empower yourself to shift your point of view.
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